Beginner Spa-Goer Guide: How To Enjoy your Spa Experience

Beginner Spa-Goer Guide: Step-by-Step Guide Deciphering the Spa Code and Becoming a Savvy Spa Customer


Have you always wanted to try out a Spa, but never got to?

Have you been to a Spa but not sure what to expect? How to behave? What to do (or not do)?

Do you feel embarrassed asking ‘stupid’ questions?

My first spa experience was when I was 16. My mom brought me to Chiva Som International Health Resort in Hua Hin, Thailand for a ‘Mom & Daughter’ holiday after high school graduation. I didn’t know what to expect, and by the way I didn’t know that I was getting into the Spa industry then. My heart was broken at that time from my first ever breakup. I am so grateful of my mom who brought me there. Honestly I couldn’t even recall what my first spa experience was, I was just going with the flow, following my mom and the spa therapist, and little did I know at that time, my introduction to the world of Spas.

So here’s my own version of a Beginner Spa-Goer Guide to decipher the Spa Codea step by step guide to let you become a savvy Spa-goer and enjoy your Spa bliss to the fullest.

Please note that every country’s custom and culture are different, so may the service protocol in various Spas. Predominantly my experience is from working at upscale hotel/resort and day spas in Thailand and being a spa-goer myself when I am traveling. I’ve been to spas mainly in Asia, and a couple times in the US.  The below guide is intend for using spa services in upscale hotel/resort and day spas. If you go to a massage clinic, foot massage or Thai massage shop, the experience will be different.

So whenever you are unsure what to do, just ask – you ARE the Guest!

Here’s a sneak peek of what entails:

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  1. Book in Advance to avoid Disappointment

Booking a Spa treatment in advance is the same as booking a hotel room or making a restaurant reservation. If you don’t want to be disappointed, then book in advance. City Spas generally get busy in the weekends, or during after work hours on weekdays. If you are staying at a resort, the afternoon times from 4-6pm are the busiest, because that’s when guests return from their daily excursions or sightseeing tours and have some free time to relax a bit before dinner time.

Especially if you want to enjoy a Spa treatment for more than 1 hour, please do yourself a favor and book ahead!

If you walk into a spa that is free all the time, it’s like going into a restaurant with no one else. You understand what I mean, right?

For people like me who work in Spas, we would love to fit as many guests as we can. If you call ahead, we can suggest a time slot that can work for both of us.

Walk-in guests are also lovely, but in reality it takes therapists a minimum of 5 minutes to prepare the treatment room and the products for the treatment. If you are lucky and there are no bookings after you, then you can enjoy the entire 60 minutes (or however long you booked). If not, then the therapist will be in a hurry (but if they are professional then they won’t show it). It misses the point if you have to feel rushed through a supposedly relaxing and winding you down self-pampering time!


  1. Female or Male Therapist?

Be sure to let the Spa know if you have a preference for female or male therapist. The Spa Receptionist, if they know what they are doing, should ask for your preference if they have both female and male therapist on staff.

If it’s the first time for you to get a massage, I’d recommend going for a same-sex therapist until you are more comfortable.

Me, I can do both. But I would also prefer female therapist for body scrub and body wrap treatments.

I would only go for male therapist if I am sure of the Spa’s standards. I had a most amazing male spa therapist on staff before, and I would tell my guests that they wouldn’t even notice that it was a man giving the treatment because his hands and energy were so gentle.

A lot of my female guests who were hesitant about a male therapist before definitely fell in love with his treatments afterwards. So worth the try!


  1. Arrive Early

If your treatment starts at 10.00am, please arrive at least 5 to 10 minutes earlier.

A lot of Spas (especially luxury Spas) need to “check-in” their guests. For example, asking you to fill out a consultation form, or choosing your aroma blend for the massage.

A consultation form is absolutely essential, as this is the time that you voice your need and expectation for the treatment (or else why would you be paying for a spa treatment at the first place). Most (not all) consultation forms ask which area you would like to concentrate or avoid, if you are having a full body massage. Make sure to fill this out, so the therapist knows where to work on (and you can get your money worth)!

No consultation form? Worry not! You can also inform the therapist before the treatment begins. After all, you are the guest and the therapist is here to help you feel better, not worse!

Arriving early also gives you time to get changed, and enjoy the facilities at the Spa.

Check if the Spa offers complimentary sauna or steam for their guests. If you want to enjoy these facilities, I definitely recommend enjoying them before the treatment. Steam or sauna is a great way to open up the skin pores before your treatment, so your skin can absorb all the good stuff from the spa products. And generally this will help you to wind down and get into the Spa mood. Oh, did I also mention the steam and sauna help your body gently detox too? Remember to rehydrate after the steam/sauna, and after your treatment.

Key Reminder: If you are allergic to nuts, certain essential oils, beeswax, honey, or have sensitive skin, please do let the Spa Receptionist or Therapist know.

Most base massage oils are nut-based, such as sweet almond oil. Ask the spa if they can change to Coconut oil or Jojoba oil if you are allergic to nuts.

If you have sensitive skin, avoid citrus type of oils or ingredients if you are having body scrub or facial.

Unsure of how sensitive you are? Ask the Receptionist before the treatment starts if you can test the product on the inside of your elbow, a very sensitive part of your skin. If you do get red within 5 minutes, make sure to ask for a change of treatment or a product substitute.


  1. Get Changed

Some spas have a separate changing room area for their spa guests, and some spas will ask their guests to change inside the treatment room.

Either way, the Spa would provide a bathrobe or a towel for you to change into.

I have summarized below deciphering what stays on or off for which treatment:



  1. Voice out Your Need

A lot of times when we get naked in front of a total stranger, somehow we feel vulnerable and also embarrassed, to some degree. Me too.

So many times I have endured meh massages, simply because I felt I was being rude and impolite if I did say something, even feeling guilty to the poor therapist who was doing her best. Whether the pressure was too soft and gentle like I felt nothing and even slightly annoyed, too strong and rough that I became too tense, the therapist actually fell asleep while doing the massage, the therapist was not focused in the treatment (yes I could feel that), or the room was too cold, too hot, or too noisy, I said nothing.

Only afterwards I’d vouch that I’d never return to this Spa. How ignorant of me!

You are doing yourself AND the therapist a favor when you voice out your need (just like any other relationship). You are not being a diva or rude. You have paid for the spa experience to treat yourself, and you deserve all the right to improve the experience for yourself. It is difficult for the therapist to guess what you are feeling or thinking if you stay silent.

Most hotel spas or luxury day spas have a set of standard questions for their therapists to check in with their guests before and during the treatment. For example, the therapist would ask if the room temperature is all right, or if the treatment pressure is too strong or too soft. This definitely helps the embarrassment of breaking the silence in the room.

If the therapist forgets to ask, or if you don’t speak the same language, do say something, or use body language when you experience discomfort. The therapist (and on behalf of the entire spa) is only there to serve you, and not to break your bones. Or nerves.



Remember when I said you deserve to enjoy your spa experience? I mean it.

So put away your phone (better lock in the locker), put it on silent so it doesn’t ring in the middle of the treatment. I have seen people talking on the phone while having a body massage (okay I can still accept that for a foot massage in a foot massage shop), but it’s really your quiet time to pamper yourself, isn’t it?

Stop thinking about work or worrying about what you need to do after the treatment finishes. Allow your mind to drift to sleep, or just to a deep relaxed state, and enjoy it. Be in the present moment, and feel every stroke of that massage on your muscles. It’s the perfect time to tune in and connect with your body.


  1. Drink ENOUGH Water to rehydrate

After your amazing spa treatment finishes (oh how I wish It can last forever), you will be escorted out to the treatment room back to the changing room, or you will be asked to get changed inside the room.

Make sure to check your belongings before leaving the treatment room or the changing room.

Drink enough water to rehydrate. Most treatments on the body help to stimulate blood circulation and your lymphatic system (and more).

I have personally seen many people, including myself, getting sick or feeling feverish after a deep tissue type of treatment because they didn’t drink enough water afterwards to flush out toxins. Most spas offer a cup of tea afterwards which is also wonderful, but remember to gulp down some water too!



  1. To Tip or Not to Tip? 

After your lovely spa treatment, it’s time to pay for the services you have received. Or you may have paid up front already. A lot of people always ask me about tipping for the spa therapist.

In most countries, tipping is really up to you. There is no real standard way to tip. But if someone asks me, I’d recommend about 10 – 15% of the treatment price. If you really enjoy the treatment, then definitely you can even give up to 20%, or more.

Do you NEED to tip? No, not necessarily. Except if you are in the US, or countries where tipping is part of the custom.

Who should you tip? There are actually many ways you can do it, and it also depends on the policy of the spa.

If you give to the therapist directly in cash, pretty much the therapist will get all of it. You can also ask for an envelope at the Spa Reception and leave it there, and ask the Receptionist to give to the Therapist after. Some Spas also have a tipping box with each therapist’s name, or some Spas may only accept tips in one big tip box for the entire team.

If you are staying at a hotel/resort, and sign it to the room, the therapist may or may not get the full amount. In Thailand, for example, 7% VAT has to be paid from the tip, so if you write 100THB, the therapist will only get 93THB only. And depending on the Spa’s policy, some Spas share the tips with the other members of the Spa team – because yes, the Spa Receptionists, Spa Attendants and other staff help contribute to the Spa experience, and they too deserve some tip. In my previous Spa, we share 70% to the therapist and 30% to the rest of the spa team.

Not sure how or who to leave the tip to? Just ask! It’s best to ask the Spa Receptionist. I can assure you, that you are not the first one to ask about it. That is, unless, it’s the Spa Receptionist’s first day on the job.


  1. Review the Spa

If you have enjoyed your spa experience tremendously, wouldn’t you want to share this positive experience with other people around the globe? Check if the Spa is listed on Tripadvisor, or other Spa listing websites such as SpaFinder or Wahanda.

You can even review the Spa at their facebook page. Some social-media savvy Spas will offer rewards for guests who like their facebook page or write a review for them.

Lastly, if the Spa does offer a feedback form or comment card (it’s already a bonus if they do, it means they care about improving their services and facilities), please do fill it out! Good or bad, we Spa people want to hear it all! That’s how the whole Spa industry can improve and better ourselves to help YOU.

So many times I have been to Spas where they did not even bother to ask for the feedback, and it’s such a pity I feel, because direct guest feedback is one way for us Spas to know if we are on the right track or not.

Not sure how to comment? Even one phrase – thank you it was wonderful, would make our day!



The Spa is definitely a place for us to pamper and treat ourselves. Most of the time when you enjoy a Spa service in an upscale hotel/resort spa or day spa, the Spa receptionist and therapist will be there to guide you and assist you.

But now that you know what to do and to expect from your spa experience, I hope that you can enjoy your spa experience as a savvy customer.

And if there is only one thing you should really remember, it’s to drink lots of water after the treatment.

So, what is your spa experience like? Please share and leave a comment below. I’d love to hear about your experience, and if any of the above spa tips are helpful. 

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What does it mean to Forgive (to me)?



Be compassionate to yourself and flexible.

Please forgive me, but I might not be the best person to tell you about forgiveness. I, myself, have a pretty hard time forgiving. It’s true it’s not easy to forgive someone, or some situation, but we don’t have to do it for them or it, we have to do it for ourselves. Forget, forgive and forget.

The bondage created by resentment and anger can eat us up from the inside out. Choosing not to forgive ourselves and dwelling, is like drinking poison and hoping our enemies fall. That’s not how it works.

We have to allow ourselves the ability to move on and grow. Analyse, reflect, learn and blossom. We have to stop telling the story of what happened, and start creating the story we want. Until we realise that the situation is over, we cannot move forward.


It is a fact that not all humans are trustworthy, but that doesn’t mean we have to throw ourselves in the line of danger. Distance ourselves from them, and if we can, totally avoid them. Avoid the track of becoming a repeat victim, only face them when need be. But to keep things simple, avoid fire. Know that the same thing is unlikely to happen again, but don’t put yourself in a point of vulnerability. No thanks please, I’m not going to have a second serving of that.

What has happened does suck. And that’s exactly what happened. It happened, it’s done with. Do not allow that negativity to encapsulate your mind with additional time and space. They, it, has upset us, and it’s time to get better now. It didn’t destroy you, so you are much the wiser and stronger for it. It was an unpleasant experience, but an experience given by your enemy non-the-less as an opportunity to grow.

Let’s take this as a positive and move pass it. Hey as Frank Sinatra said, “ The best revenge is massive success.” So get good. Do it for you, because when you’re there, you’ll be in a better place.

It’s challenging to forgive the unforgivable and fight evil with kindness, but as Martin Luther King Junior said, “ Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” If you can’t love them, at least love yourself, because you deserve it.

Be compassionate to yourself and flexible. It will take some time to move pass this place, and you may slip from time to time, but allow yourself to feel the emotions and process them. Release that anchor that’s weighted you for so long.

As I said, I might not be the best person to speak to you about forgiveness, for I am still learning, but heck, I do know I do deserve love, and so do you. So here’s a start to giving, for giving yourself love is the best.


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5 Signs Your Body Needs a Time-Out from Work

5 Signs Your Body Needs a Time-Out

Can you tell when you are working too much?

If you enjoy your work, (or not), or simply just a workaholic – this is for you.

Sometimes we are so into our work, or when we want to finish something to feel like we have achieved something finally, we forget that we work too much. Our body is overloaded with stress and fatigue, our mind is spinning and cannot relax.

No matter how strong our willpower is sometimes, our body is way too smart to help us! Our body needs to rest and knows how to give out signs when we are SUPPOSED to rest.

Stress is recognized as the number #1 killer, as it is related to many chronic diseases such as heart problems, gastrointestinal problems, and more.

So is it worth it to let all the work stress to take over your life?

I am also guilty of working too much sometimes, and my body will remind me all the time. In the spirit of Thai New Year, today, I want to share a few personal tips to recognize when you are working too much and what you can do about it.

1. Your back hurts

Or your shoulder. Or your legs. Or your eyes. Or your entire body. Feeling achy and stiff? Feel pain shooting up from your legs up to your hip and lower back (be careful there)? Feeling dry eyes from staring at a screen too long?  Yup, these are all signs that your body is exhausted!

Our body loves to give us signs to decipher when something is out of balance, which we like to call symptoms in this modern world. When your back hurts, would it be that you have been sitting too many long hours in front of a computer, or have you been lifting heavy things in a wrong way?

Time out: Get a massage at a spa! 

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Besides all the amazing benefits of what massage can do to your body physically, it’s like you are taking your body on a date. Notice I say getting a massage at a SPA, and not just a regular massage clinic. Upon entering a spa, you will smell the aroma oil burning, feel the cold towel on your face, sip a glass of herbal tea, and your body and your mind will start to relax. Put the phone away and turn it on silent. Even better if you can leave the phone in the locker instead.

Remember to tell your therapist which area of your body you would like to focus on, and be sure to voice out any concerns if your therapist’s pressure is too soft or too strong. Your spa therapist is there to help you get better and not worse. After your body relaxes, you can now go back to work, feeling calmer.

2. You eat while you work, at night

Rewind back a few years (or more) when my friends just graduated from college, a lot of them went into the finance industry and they worked really long hours. A lot of times they would have to eat at their desk at night to keep on going.

Obviously, I know this lifestyle is not for me, that’s why I am into spas, not banks. But even then, sometimes I fall into the same trap, pushing myself to finish something, and I immediately suffer the consequences later.

What’s wrong with this? I’m not saying that you cannot work after dinner, though preferably it should be time to wind down your day, not to wind you up. Stress can lead to many digestive problems.

Did you know that your stomach is the only organ in your body that is hollow? Besides what you eat physically, this is also where you store swallowed-up emotions and stress. If whatever you are working on is also served on plate, do you realize what you are eating? Stress – straight into the stomach.

TIME OUT! Invite a friend for dinner!


Or a coworker. If you really have to go back to work after your dinner, at least give yourself a dinner break, like you would for a lunch break. A lunch break is usually an hour, so give yourself an hour dinner break, or even longer if you are not getting overtime paid.

A change of scenery would definitely help to break you out from the work zone (or your mind), and inviting a friend means you’ll have to socialize and connect with another human being. This can help to shift your work mode brain into socializing mode, and hopefully – more relaxed.

3. You can’t sleep well

There are many factors of why a person cannot fall asleep or sleep well. Work stress can be one of these factors, if you find yourself tumbling and turning, unable to switch off the brain chatter in your mind.

I get that sometimes. When I have some ideas in my head and fall to sleep, it seems like I keep thinking of these ideas even when I am sleeping. It’s not the same as dreaming, because it actually feels like I haven’t slept well for the whole night.

I know how cranky I get if I don’t get a good night sleep. Or thinking it the other way, I am completely refreshed when I get enough rest, both physically and mentally.

Time out! Write things down before you sleep

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If you get suddenly inspired before falling to sleep, or if you have a list of things to do in your head that you are afraid you may forget, write them down!

Get a cute notebook and a pen and put it by your bedside table. Even the Notes app in your smartphone would work.

Personally I still like to write things down instead of using a phone, but my Iphone has helped me a lot when I don’t have a pen and paper around.

Once you write down the things in your mind, it’s like getting these ideas out from your system into the different space. Think about it as transforming something formless into form (this is how I got the name museflower).

By the way, it doesn’t have to be just ideas. If you have a lot on your mind, it’s great to write things down in your journal for some daily reflection. Keep on writing and don’t stop for grammar or spell check. Your journal is your inner world.

4. You feel frustrated but you don’t know why

At times from working long hours, we get a lot of pent up energy stored in the body. Needless to say, if we don’t do something about it, we get frustrated easily. Some examples: you crave for sweet things because life has become too bitter; your patience and tolerance level for others have gone down; you really want to punch someone in the face.



One way to release pent up frustration is by exercising and sweating it out. From one of my all time favorite show – Cesar Millan’s The Dog Whisperer, dogs are shifted into a more calm and submissive state when they release their pent up energy through exercising.

I know I feel the same. The first time I tried Thai Boxing, I almost fainted after like 10 minutes. But before I fainted, I really enjoyed channeling all my energy into fists and kicks. I’m absolutely no expert in Thai boxing nor do I claim to be. I understand how it feels when we can channel our focus and energy into a movement or exercise, it is meditation on its own, with the added benefits of getting fit and into shape too, of course.

When you finish, you will realize you have no need to punch anyone in the face anymore. Now, take a cleansing and refreshing shower, and viola, frustration is gone!


When you feel that life just loops and reloops in the same routine, it’s definitely time to take a major time out! Do you feel like you need to break out from a rut?

Well your feelings are telling you something!

I know for myself that I cannot stay in one place for too long, or else I’d get bored. I think it’s because I’ve always worked and lived in the same place. In the past when I was working in the gorgeous Koh Kood, guests would constantly comment how lucky I was to work in such a paradise island. I always answered the same – that work is work, though I was lucky that the view of my office was not someone’s else office in another building.

At the time when I was working in Koh Kood, I went to Bangkok once a month just for a change of scenery, and to buy stuff that I needed.

Even now in Chiang Rai I go back home every two to three months. And if I work for 6 weeks straight (with only one or half day off every week), my body starts to give me signs to take a break, like my stomach starts to feel unwell, or a headache starts to hit.

Something inside me tells me that it’s time to go somewhere else and be inspired.



Remember when I said that a change of scenery helps, because it shifts your brain into a different mode? Traveling to a different place is an ultimate change of scenery. You are in a different country, speaking and listening to a different language, and eating different types of food. How exciting! Your brain will be too busy focusing on the new, and you will be too busy to think about work.

Can’t afford to go away for so long? Plan a weekend trip by visiting a nearby town. There are so many travel websites that offer last minute hotel rates at deep discounts.

Can’t even afford to go away for one night? Be a tourist in your own city and explore an area of town that you would have never gone to, because it’s too touristy. Try out a new restaurant, visit a new art exhibition, watch the latest movie in the cinema.  Do something that you normally wouldn’t do. The trick is to trick your brain that you are in a new city, and that you are breaking out from a rut!

I get truly inspired when I am traveling, partly because my mind is fully open and because I am having fun!


Remember to tune in and listen to your body for signs and feelings. When we are working too much and over stress our body and mind, our body always finds ways to tell us.

Treat your body as a temple, because we only get one body this life!

How about you? How do you know when you are working too much, and what is your time-out solution? Please feel free to share and leave your comment below!

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Radical Forgiveness

guest blog by david g arenson nd

Conflict, war, misery and hunger continues in our world. Where is the peace?


Why does it seem we still have so much suffering – and is there a different way to approach this?

Is there a root of our collective dysfunction as individuals and as a collective society? As Henry Thoreau observed about the folly of not going directly to the source, however uncomfortable it may be, “There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root.”

It seems that in today’s world, selfishness, lust for power, hatred, violence and other unwanted dramas are still very much at play. The despair and separation seems to be reaching saturation point. It is an invitation to consider what historian Charles Beard said when asked what he had learnt from history, “when it is dark enough, you can see the stars.”

If now is the darkness before the dawn, what is the most powerful act we can do as individuals and as humanity to sweep away the conflicts of history? Where is the glimpse of light striving to shine forth?

There is never a time when peace can be resolved with hatred. If the past taught us anything, it is that conflict stimulates more conflict. So, too, forgiveness stimulates more forgiveness. We stand at a threshold of spiritual opportunity that can take us into the stratosphere of our radiance. When you liberate yourself, you automatically liberate others. Choosing goodness crosses the barrier of ego limitation, and invites others to walk with us, as our light is shared amongst others.

Radical forgiveness is a broader gift – an act of grace and service to humanity. It’s a process of final resolution, release and healing.

Radical forgiveness is not sensible, rational, logical or “right” – it’s an invitation to open the heart to acting completely and unconditionally loving without a selfish motivation. Not that one doesn’t get something out of forgiving. Forgiveness is an act of self-love – it gives a double gift, rewarding both the giver and the receiver. That’s why forgiving and letting go is the most powerful choice one can make for oneself and for humanity.

Practising radical forgiveness is allowing and accepting all that is happening in our world. It releases one to be present without trying to control others and the quality of our experience. Taking the “letting go” pill activates a deep surrendering. In this space of surrender, we glimpse a greater part of reality and who we are – that which is unconditional freedom. With understanding, comes compassion. With compassion, comes forgiveness. Radical forgiveness liberates all to be allowed.

Forgiveness liberates us from suffering over the past and inspires us to be present. In The Power of Now, Eckhart Tolle argues that only by stepping into the “power of the Now,” can there be real forgiveness. This point of now is where all true power exists rendering forgiveness actually unnecessary. “This renders the past powerless, and you realize deeply that nothing you ever did or that was ever done to you could touch even in the slightest the radiant essence of who you are.”

The ocean is made up of single cells containing the intelligence of the whole body. As within each droplet of water is the ocean, so within each person is the intelligence of the whole of humanity. To see any single person as separate from the whole, is to misunderstand our connection, our inseparability.

Once we can begin to glimpse our vastness, and start to embrace our expansive potential, we can start to open the closed windows of our minds. By allowing our humanity to embrace our universality, we can liberate limitation from our spirits, and invite in endless cosmic possibilities. As Jack Kornfield wrote, “Within each of us is a secret longing to remember the light, to step out in time in this dancing world. It’s where we began and where we return.”

The cosmic joke is that the very external world we judge so harshly, only reflects our internal world. What is seen in others is a projection that emanates from within. This mirror shows us who we are, it reveals exactly what is happening inside. There is no escaping from the self – one always suffers the consequences of what is occurring in one’s internal world. One who is able to accept and forgive himself (or herself) is also able to accept and forgive others.

Holding grudges and negative feelings towards is an act of self-harm. We become victims of our own suffering, not victims of the person who supposedly harmed us. We do most harm to ourselves not by what others did to us, but how we respond to it. What we resist will persist until we embrace acceptance, allowance and non-judgment. Forgiveness releases and clears our internal experience, and we can use this open space to live a life of freedom. Radical forgiveness frees us from being held hostage by blame, shame and guilt. It opens up the gateway to release negativity, and instead replace these qualities in our self with positive feelings.

Why radical forgiveness?

Now is the time to radiate our potential as evolving human beings and humanity. Radical forgiveness lets go and releases what is past to the annals of the past. It invites in our own true nature.

Isaac Newton’s action-reaction physics principle means that we create our reality via our perspective, beliefs and thoughts. By the universal law of inviting in that which is feared, invalidating so-called evil and evil-doers empowers those committing atrocities.

As Jane Goodall said, “You cannot get through a single day without having an impact on the world around you. What you do makes a difference and you have to decide what kind of difference you want to make.”

There is no loss in venturing forth with one’s heart open as a messenger of hope, a ray of light. Here is an invitation, to lead the way by practising radical forgiveness.

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david arensonDavid G Arenson ND is a Transformational Healer, Speaker and International Guide. A qualified Naturopath, David is very inspired by Buddhist Mindfulness practices, Soul-Coaching, and Qi Gong. He has been influenced by his time working and studying in Asia in places like Mount Wudang (the Taoist Mountain in China), Vietnam and Thailand.

He offers soul-coaching sessions which offer healing wisdom for the soul at Vivacious Living Centre in Applecross (Perth) and via Skype. David is busy writing a book on soul consciousness, and also plans to develop journey retreats to places of spiritual activation. He is actively seeking partners to co-create his vision of an enlightened and unified planet of choice.

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What is Thai Herbal Steam?

Guest Blog By Morning Glory

Since this month’s theme at Museflower is about giving back to nature, I wanted to talk about how nature gives to us, such as how we harness nature’s healing properties in the spa.

You’ll see Thai Herbal Steam on the Museflower spa menu, and in many spas around Thailand, but do you know what that actually consists of?


Though it is popular in modern spas, this treatment has been used by generations of Thais in Thai folk medicine for centuries. It originally came to Thailand from India about 2,000 years ago through Buddhist missionary monks who brought Indian Ayurvedic healing practices with them.

What makes Thai herbal steam different from regular steam?

A normal steam is so relaxing because heat relaxes tense muscles and opens the pores, which helps the body flush toxins out.

With Thai herbal steam, the benefits are multiplied because on top of this, the healing properties of the medicinal herbs are absorbed into your system and you feel the effects right away, so that you leave the steam feeling refreshed, and invigorated.

It’s the mix of herbs that makes the Thai herbal steam so powerful. Typically the mix includes turmeric, prai (a cousin of the ginger family), lemongrass, kaffir lime, camphor, tamarind leaves, and many others.

Each of these herbs has its own curative properties, and the steam lets it penetrate quickly into the body by opening the pores.

A session in the steam room can improve circulation, relieve tension and headaches, sooth aching muscles, cleanse and rejuvenate the skin, and help you sleep better. In my personal experience, it is also also and amazing cure for headaches and hangovers!

Want to learn more about experiencing the Thai herbal steam room during your stay at Museflower Retreat & Spa, Chiang Rai, Thailand? Find out more here.

About Morning Glory

morning glory flowerMorning Glory lives in Bangkok where she takes care of her family and works as a writer and communications consultant.Her past struggles with stress, chronic fatigue and a spine injury led her on a journey in search of alternative healing, and she has travelled around Thailand, Bali, India and Sri Lanka exploring different types of healing retreats and techniques, and led her to practice yoga and Reiki.

Morning is her favorite time of day, when she wakes up to the sound of birds singing in the garden. This flower always reminds her of her childhood, and Thai sautéed “Red Fire Morning Glory” is one of her favorite vegetarian dishes!

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