What does it mean to Forgive (to me)?



Be compassionate to yourself and flexible.

Please forgive me, but I might not be the best person to tell you about forgiveness. I, myself, have a pretty hard time forgiving. It’s true it’s not easy to forgive someone, or some situation, but we don’t have to do it for them or it, we have to do it for ourselves. Forget, forgive and forget.

The bondage created by resentment and anger can eat us up from the inside out. Choosing not to forgive ourselves and dwelling, is like drinking poison and hoping our enemies fall. That’s not how it works.

We have to allow ourselves the ability to move on and grow. Analyse, reflect, learn and blossom. We have to stop telling the story of what happened, and start creating the story we want. Until we realise that the situation is over, we cannot move forward.


It is a fact that not all humans are trustworthy, but that doesn’t mean we have to throw ourselves in the line of danger. Distance ourselves from them, and if we can, totally avoid them. Avoid the track of becoming a repeat victim, only face them when need be. But to keep things simple, avoid fire. Know that the same thing is unlikely to happen again, but don’t put yourself in a point of vulnerability. No thanks please, I’m not going to have a second serving of that.

What has happened does suck. And that’s exactly what happened. It happened, it’s done with. Do not allow that negativity to encapsulate your mind with additional time and space. They, it, has upset us, and it’s time to get better now. It didn’t destroy you, so you are much the wiser and stronger for it. It was an unpleasant experience, but an experience given by your enemy non-the-less as an opportunity to grow.

Let’s take this as a positive and move pass it. Hey as Frank Sinatra said, “ The best revenge is massive success.” So get good. Do it for you, because when you’re there, you’ll be in a better place.

It’s challenging to forgive the unforgivable and fight evil with kindness, but as Martin Luther King Junior said, “ Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” If you can’t love them, at least love yourself, because you deserve it.

Be compassionate to yourself and flexible. It will take some time to move pass this place, and you may slip from time to time, but allow yourself to feel the emotions and process them. Release that anchor that’s weighted you for so long.

As I said, I might not be the best person to speak to you about forgiveness, for I am still learning, but heck, I do know I do deserve love, and so do you. So here’s a start to giving, for giving yourself love is the best.


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lucas mokLucas Mok, writer and blogger, is lively, positive, and has inspirational sunshine beaming out of him.

He is a Sports Performance Coach turned Patient, turned Life Coach, that wants to make the world a better place.

B.S. in Applied Exercise Science, A.S. in Sports Fitness and Health, Ignite360 Trainer, Complete Core Conditioning C³, Teachers Toolbox, Combine360 Trainer , NLP Coach, NLP Practitioner, Hypnosis Practitioner, Time Line Therapy™ Practitioner

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